The Dos & Don’ts of Wedding DJing

Planning a wedding involves countless details, and one of the most critical elements for ensuring the celebration is memorable is the music. As a wedding DJ, your role is not just to play songs but to create an atmosphere, manage the flow of the event, and ensure that everyone, from the newlyweds to their guests, has a fantastic time. To help you excel in this role, here are the essential dos and don’ts of wedding DJing, packed with tips, insights, and advice from one of the top industry professionals.


1. Meet with the Couple Beforehand

Before the wedding day, it is vital to meet with the couple to discuss their music preferences, special requests, and any specific instructions they may have. This meeting helps you understand their vision and ensures that you are on the same page regarding the playlist and the event’s flow. It also provides an opportunity to build rapport with the couple, making them feel confident in your abilities. Meetings don’t need to be in person. You can have a conference call or Zoom if the couple lives out of the area.

 2. Prepare a Diverse Playlist

Weddings typically have guests of all ages and musical tastes. To keep everyone entertained, create a diverse playlist that includes a mix of genres and eras. Start with classics for the older guests, move through the decades, and include contemporary hits for the younger crowd. This variety keeps the dance floor packed and ensures everyone has a good time. In most cases the nearly weds will want to share a Spotify playlist of their favorites with you.

3. Use High-Quality Equipment

Ensure you have the right equipment, including modern PA speakers, a reliable laptop, and backups for everything. High-quality gear ensures that your music sounds great and reduces the risk of technical issues during the event. Presentation matters too, so invest in sleek, professional-looking equipment that complements the wedding setting.

4. Dress Appropriately

Your appearance should match the formality of the event. Typically, this means wearing formal attire such as a suit, vest jacket, and tie or bow tie. Dressing appropriately shows respect for the occasion and enhances your professional image, making a positive impression on the couple and their guests.

5. Arrive Early to Set Up

Punctuality is crucial. Arrive early to set up your equipment and conduct a sound check. Familiarize yourself with the venue’s layout, especially the location of power sources and any restrictions on equipment like haze machines. Some venues don’t allow the use of stage, or duct tape. This might limit where you can place speakers and lighting.  Investing in high quality wireless uplighting can drastically cut down on valuable set up time. Being well-prepared helps avoid last-minute issues and ensures a smooth start to the event.

6. Engage with the Crowd

A great DJ does more than play music; they engage with the crowd and maintain the energy throughout the event. Use the microphone to make announcements, introduce special dances, and encourage guests to hit the dance floor. Your enthusiasm can set the tone for the entire evening, making the event more enjoyable for everyone.

7. Be Flexible and Adaptable

Weddings are dynamic events with lots of moving parts. Be ready to adapt to changes in the schedule and accommodate spontaneous requests. Flexibility will help you manage any unexpected situations smoothly and maintain the event’s flow, ensuring everything runs seamlessly.

8. Handle Song Requests Gracefully

Guests will often have song requests, and it’s important to handle these gracefully. Have a system in place for taking requests, such as a notepad or a mobile app, and try to incorporate these songs into your set without disrupting the flow of the evening. This shows that you are approachable and attentive to the guests’ desires. If a guest makes a request that is inappropriate for the event, or it just isn’t a playable song, let them know. Don’t keep them wondering when their request is going to be played.

9. Prioritize the Marrying Couple

Always prioritize the preferences of the marrying couple. Their enjoyment is paramount, so be attentive to their reactions and adjust your playlist accordingly. Make sure to include their special songs at key moments to make their day unforgettable and ensure they have the best possible experience.

10. Incorporate Interactive Elements

If the couple is open to it, consider adding interactive elements like the Table Dash Game. The Table Dash can be a fun and engaging way to get guests involved and add a unique twist to the evening’s entertainment. It helps break the ice and can create memorable moments for everyone.


1. Avoid Playing Inappropriate Music

Weddings are family-friendly events, so avoid songs with explicit lyrics or inappropriate content. Ensure all your music is suitable for guests of all ages to prevent any awkward moments or complaints from attendees.

2. Don’t Talk Too Much

While engagement with the crowd is important, avoid over-talking. Your primary role is to play music, so keep your announcements concise and relevant to maintain the atmosphere. Over-talking can detract from the music and disrupt the flow of the event. Most importantly, don’t try to sound like a DJ….

3. Refrain from Drinking Alcohol

Maintaining professionalism is key, so refrain from drinking alcohol while on the job. Staying sober ensures you remain focused and can handle any situation that arises, maintaining a high level of professionalism throughout the event. You are getting payed to provide quality entertainment for the party, you’re not there to take part in the party.

4. Don’t Arrive Late

Punctuality is critical for wedding DJs. Arriving late can cause unnecessary stress and disrupt the schedule. Always plan to arrive well in advance to setup and troubleshoot any potential issues, ensuring everything is ready before the guests arrive. If you are traveling to a destination wedding leave well in advance, giving yourself extra time for traffic delays or detours can be a lifesaver.

5. Avoid Overplaying Personal Preferences

While it’s important to showcase your style, remember that the wedding is about the couple and their guests. Avoid playing too much of your favorite genres and focus on the couple’s playlist and guest requests. This ensures that the music appeals to everyone and keeps the dance floor lively.

6. Don’t Ignore Venue Restrictions

Each venue may have specific rules regarding noise levels, equipment usage, and setup. Ignoring these restrictions can lead to issues during the event. Always communicate with the venue beforehand to understand and comply with their rules to avoid any disruptions.

7. Don’t Forget to Check Equipment

Technical difficulties can ruin an event. Double-check all your equipment before the reception starts to ensure everything is in working order. Bring backup equipment if possible to avoid any disruptions and ensure a seamless performance.

8. Don’t Be Unapproachable

Guests should feel comfortable approaching you with song requests or questions. Being unapproachable can create a negative atmosphere. Always be friendly and open to interacting with guests, showing that you are there to help make their experience enjoyable.

9. Don’t Neglect the Timeline

Weddings follow a strict timeline, and it’s your job to adhere to it. Coordinate with the wedding planner and be clear on the schedule for key moments like the first dance, speeches, and cake cutting. Sticking to the timeline ensures that everything runs smoothly and according to plan.

10. Avoid Overcomplicating Your Set

While showcasing advanced DJ techniques can be impressive, weddings require a more straightforward approach. Focus on smooth transitions and crowd-pleasing tracks rather than complex mixes that might not resonate with a diverse audience. Keeping it simple ensures that everyone enjoys the music and has a great time. Remember, it’s not all about you!

Additional Tips for Wedding DJs

Know Your Audience

Understanding your audience is key to a successful wedding performance. Pay attention to the reactions of guests on the dance floor and adjust your playlist accordingly. Reading the crowd helps you keep the energy high and ensures that everyone has a great time.

Stay Up-to-Date with Trends

The music industry is always evolving, and staying up-to-date with the latest trends is essential. Regularly update your playlist with new releases and popular tracks to keep your sets fresh and exciting.

Network with Other Wedding Professionals

Building relationships with other wedding professionals, such as photographers, planners, and venue managers, can enhance your reputation and lead to more bookings. Networking helps you stay informed about industry trends and provides opportunities for collaboration.

Use Social Media to Promote Your Services

Social media is a powerful tool for promoting your DJ services. Share photos and videos from past weddings, client testimonials, and updates about your services on platforms like Instagram, Facebook, and (X)Twitter. Engaging with your audience online can help attract new clients and build your brand.

Invest in Professional Development

Continuously improving your skills is crucial for long-term success. Attend workshops, take online courses, and participate in DJ competitions to enhance your abilities and stay ahead of the competition. Joining professional groups like Toastmasters can be a life changer, bringing your emcee skills to the next level.  


Being a wedding DJ is a rewarding and challenging role that requires a combination of musical talent, technical skills, and interpersonal abilities. By following these wedding DJing dos and don’ts, you can ensure that you deliver a memorable and enjoyable experience for the couple and their guests. Whether you’re a seasoned professional or just starting, these tips will help you excel in your role and create unforgettable wedding celebrations.

By DJ Justin Warwick of DJ Enterprises Mobile Disc Jockey, aka DJ Warwick

DJ Emcee Justin Warwick, aka DJ Warwick - Owner, DJ Enterprises Mobile Disc Jockey & Photo Booth, Monterey, California. Monterey Wedding DJ Blog | California's most-read wedding DJ Blog

Justin Warwick. The dynamic force behind DJ Enterprises Mobile Disc Jockey, has been a trailblazer in professional DJ entertainment since 1989. Serving the Monterey Bay area and beyond. Justin specializes in creating unforgettable experiences for weddings, corporate events, New Years, anniversaries, birthdays, and a variety of social events. Known for his ability to bring joy, fun, excitement, and energy to every event. Justin’s expertise ensures a memorable experience for you and your guests.

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